Worst Actions Are the Best Teachers

A book by Dr. Sanjay Kumar Sinha

Worst Actions Are the Best Teachers

The world is a big university. And those, who graduate from it, get the certificate of experience and practical wisdom. The best lessons of life are not learnt in the books. They are learned from day-to-day interaction with other people. Life offers many unexpected challenges. They cannot be solved by mere theoretical knowledge and readymade solutions. If you approach life with mugged up answer, you will often find that it changes the question. So your keen observations of life-situations teach you more than the best moral principles. Your application of knowledge in solving day-to-day problems is the real test of your education. Education without application is like a pistol without a bullet.

Most of the unpleasant situations are the result of our irrational behaviour. Robert Burton wrote: “A blow with a word strikes deeper than a blow with a sword.” Unrestrained speech is your greatest enemy. You cannot win the heart of others by high sounding philosophies. It can be won by simple and kind words. A gentle gesture, a warm hug or a soft smile can steal the heart of anyone. Everyone is polite and well-behaved with his superiors. But how you deal with ordinary people is the proof of your worth. So whatever offends you will offend others too.

Learn this practical lesson from the bad behaviour of other people and try to be a good human being. Gunter Grass well said: “One learns the best lessons of life from observing the worst actions of people.”

Meri Gazal

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नई दुनिया को बसाने का हुनर इन बंजारों से पूछिए 

अँधेरे को रौशन करने का सुकून सितारों से पूछिए 

जिन लहरों को अपनी बांहो में झुलाया था दिनरात हमने 

उनकी चोट से कैसे दिल टूटता है, किनारों से पूछिए 

अपनों से गले मिलकर कितनी बेइंतहा  ख़ुशी होती है 

यह धरती से मिलनेवाली बारिश की फुहारों से पूछिए 

हर जुड़ती हुई ईंट के साथ कितना कुछ टूटता जाता है 

यह दिलों के आंगन में उठती हुई दीवारों से पूछिए 
कहने की कोशिश में कितना कुछ अनकहा ही रह जाता है 
 यह तो किसी गूंगे आदमी के बेबस इशारों से पूछिए 
किश्तियों को उनके मुकाम तक  पहुंचना कितनी बड़ी बात है 
अगर जानना हो तो मल्लाहों के पतवारों से पूछिए 
ग़ज़ल का हर शेर किसी बेशकीमती नगीने से कम नहीं 
इन कोहिनूरों की कीमत तो हम कलमकारों से पूछिए 

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Be Courageous like Christ

Be Courageous like Christ

Maya Angelou has well said: “Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage you cannot practise any other virtue consistently.” Those, who have made history, have been people of great courage and conviction. Courage has nothing to do with physical strength. It is the will to fight fearlessly any wrong that is happening around you. Raising your voice against all sorts of injustices, anomalies and discriminations is courage. It is the strength to express one’s views fearlessly and to listen to other’s view-point patiently. Courageous are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

Generally, the world thinks that violent people are more courageous and powerful. But more courage and inner strength is needed to be non-violent. Forgiveness needs more courage than revenge. It is not easy to forgive one’s enemy. After the emergence of the new democratic South Africa, Nelson Mandela, who was imprisoned for twenty eight long years for opposing apartheid, appealed to fellow blacks to forgive the whites for the atrocities and brutalities they had committed while in power. Was it courage or cowardliness? It needs great spiritual strength to say like Jesus Christ, “O Lord! Forgive them for they know not what they are doing.”

Saying yes to the right thing and saying no to the wrong thing demand indomitable courage. Very few people support even the right thing if it is against their selfish interest. Similarly, saying no to the wrong thing is to expose oneself to the danger of displeasing the wrong doer. Hence, courage is the moral power to stand for the right and oppose the wrong.

Declutter: The Mantra of Diwali

Declutter: The Mantra of Diwali

We are in the habit of collecting useless and unnecessary things around us. In our houses, there are so many old, broken and dysfunctional things which have lost their utility and value. To welcome Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth, we declutter during Diwali. We dispose off those unwanted articles to create more space. Clear space allows the vital energy to flow unhindered. Prosperity suffocates in a congested atmosphere. It needs openness and freedom to grow and flourish. So, there is a custom of cleaning the house and its surroundings. But this should not be a one-day habit. The concept of cleanliness should be cultivated right from the childhood so that it can become our second nature. Only then can we expect a continuous and perennial prosperity. Swachh Bharat Campaign is a welcome step in this direction to make our country clean and green once again. 

                      But much more important than physical clutter is our mental clutter. We are treating our mind like a garbage-pit. We have piled up negative emotions like vanity, anxiety, pessimism etc. in our mind. In this modern electronic world when we are constantly being bombarded by a lot of information, we have to be extremely careful and selective. Instead of running faster and faster on the materialistic treadmill, we must stop and introspect. We have to filter all the dirt and filth like an aquaguard. We have to disallow all types of negativity from entering our mind. Only pure thoughts of positivity should be permitted. If we allow negative thoughts and feelings to take roots in our mind, they will destroy our chances of success and rob us of our mental peace. A frequent dusting of the mental dirt will make us feel lighter and happier.

                                                                         After the cleaning operation is over, we decorate our houses with earthen lamps, candles or electric bulbs. Similarly, for mental illumination, we should brighten it with the neon lights of positivity. It is the only way to imbibe the spirit of this festival and celebrate it in its true sense.

Power of Patience

Power of Patience

In this vast world, there is no one who does not have a problem, big or small. There is no place where there is no problem except the grave. Problems are the proof of life. We have to learn the art of coping with the problems patiently. How poor we are without patience!

Patience is the strength of the soul. It is the courage to bear, tolerate and endure even in the worst circumstances. It is the parachute which can land us safely in case of air crash. It is the panacea to fight all adversities and hardships, calamities and misfortunes. “Patience is not about how long someone can wait. It is about how well he behaves while he waits.” Even big trees are uprooted in the wild wind. Grasses, which bow down and lie close to the ground, survive. Dark clouds do not hover over the sky forever. All lean patches pass. All sorry states and situations can be surmounted. Tough times don’t last. Tough people do. All that you need is infinite patience in your heart.

You cannot get a full grown baby before nine months. A certain period of gestation and incubation is needed for the embryo of an idea to grow and mature. People have the passion to start but not the patience to finish. To begin a thing is one thing. But to stay on and continue it till the end is another thing. Most of the failures in the world are the result of such half-hearted adventures. Those, who don’t quit and wait till the end, win the marathon race of life. Milton said: “They also serve who only stand and wait.” So, park your car in the parking zone of patience and wait for the right time to come.